My name is Stephanie Maria Martin.
I was born on June 11, 1994.
I have brown eyes and brown hair.
These are facts. These are the things that I have always known to be true about myself and that will never change. But beyond this, there is so much I have left to discover about who I am.
I don’t know what I will have for dinner next Tuesday.
I don’t know what my strengths are.
I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.
I don’t know what my purpose in life is.
I don’t know when I’ll take my last breath.
There have been many days that I have found myself in tears over some of these facts. I have a love-hate relationship with surprises, and uncertainty drains me. One day I will think I have it all figured out, and then a split second later I realize how wrong I am.
It hasn’t taken me long to learn that I can do all the planning and worrying that I want, but none of it will matter. I can plan for the worst and hope for the best, but what good does that really do? Realizing how little is under my control has been one of the hardest things for me to swallow. I like to think that I live in present, yet sleepless nights and constant doubts prove otherwise.
There is indeed so much I don’t know about myself, and about the future. But there are some really important truths that, after a lot of time, I now know.
I am unique.
I have a purpose.
I am not a mistake.
I am so, so loved.
It took me far too long to realize these four things, and I’m not so sure that I always believe them to be true. However, I know that while there is very little I can control, I can always choose to be happy. I can choose to believe these things. And that’s exactly what I will do.
I will repeat these truths to myself every day for as long as it takes for me to believe them, even if that means I will be doing it until the day I die.
And I hope that if you read this, you will do the same.
Because in a world that is constantly telling us who we should be, and as we constantly struggle to put the pieces together to figure out who we actually are, these four things will remain the same.
You are so loved.